You want to make some changes in your life.
Perhaps, you’ve drawn up a to-do list or a set of goals you’d like to accomplish for the year and you’ve been reading some self-help articles on the net.
For some reason, every single year, despite the countless self-help books and articles you read, staying committed and achieving goals continues to evade you.
There’s a number of reasons for that and I want to explore those reasons with you because they’re fixable.
But, before we can even get into those reasons, you have to open yourself up to receiving the message within this article.
If you can do that much for me, I promise you’ll leave with hope and motivation.
More importantly, you’ll leave with the ability to benefit from the advice you read in self-help content. That’s a personal guarantee!
1. You’re Trying To Avoid Emotional Resistance
A couple of years ago, I was overweight and unhealthy.
My diet was rubbish and I made excuses for why I refused to exercise. Often, I looked for an easy way to lose weight but that was nothing more than a pipe dream.
In my head, I wanted to lose weight and get abs. But, I didn’t feel like I could do it nor did I feel like resisting my cravings and desires.
My thoughts and feelings were not aligned.
In fact, I allowed my feelings to dictate my thoughts.
Because I felt like eating ice cream, I’d rationalize eating ice cream despite initial thoughts of weight loss and health.
This seems to be a common trend amongst most people who struggle to lose weight. it’s not so much the inability to take action as it is the inability to align their intentions with their emotions.
If you can resign yourself to the thought that before successfully taking action you will experience emotional resistance, you’ll never get started.
So often, I deal with people who want to build the life of their dreams but they can’t get started because they feel demotivated or lethargic.
The intention to succeed is present but emotional resistance holds them back.
They expect to feel motivated before performing difficult work.
That’s not realistic.
If that’s what you’ve taken away from self-help content, then it comes as no surprise to me why you’ve struggled to effect change in your life until now.
In reality, most of the time you will experience emotional resistance before taking action on most of your goals.
I don’t feel motivated to lift heavy weights and push myself to limits.
In fact, I often feel lethargy with a hint of dread.
But, I remind myself of all the benefits I can get from lifting heavy weights and talk myself into taking action.
As soon as I start lifting weights and gaining some momentum, that’s when motivation kicks in and what started off as a hesitant workout turns into an extremely successful one.
Whether you love something or not, emotional resistance is unavoidable.
But, when you are able to convince yourself into taking action, that’s when you develop consistency, discipline, amazing work ethic and phenomenal results.
If you’ve been reading self-help books and articles in trying to avoid emotional resistance, you simply won’t find what you’re looking for.
However, if you’re looking for techniques and methods on how to take action despite emotional resistance, that’s when you can truly benefit from self-help content!
2. The Average Person Only Absorbs Approximately 10% Of What They Read
Believe it or not, you’re only downloading a small fraction of information from the content you read and watch.
I learned this lesson from Coach Corey Wayne who has amazing videos on understanding relationships and a book on How To Be A 3% Man.
Anyone who knows Coach Corey Wayne has heard, on multiple occasions, how important it is for you to read his book at least 10 – 12 times because you only absorb about 10% of the information from a single read.
Think about that for a second.
From a 300 page book with over a 100 different techniques on how to change your life, you’re only truly absorbing about 10 of those techniques. 90 other life-changing lessons and techniques are not even in your arsenal because you’ve only read that book once.
In my own experience, when I’ve truly been able to benefit from self-help books and articles is when I’ve studied it so much that I can give a seminar on it!
Invest time into updating your knowledge bank and you’ll be rich for a lifetime.
The next time you come across a piece of self-help that is amazing, study it over and over again until you master every aspect of it.
When it’s embedded in your mind, that’s when it will benefit you the most.
I always remind myself of the following – you cannot take action and benefit from something if you don’t even know it exists.
3. You Haven’t Taken Action On The Information You Seek Out
Albert Einstein once said, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”
Nothing changes unless you take action that inspires change.
If you aren’t translating the information you read into actions that could change your life, don’t blame the information for that, blame yourself for inaction.
I know it’s a bitter pill swallow but you simply have to.
Draw up a simple plan on how you can translate a technique or principle into your own routine and take action on that plan for a considerate amount of time.
Based on the results, adapt and change it until you achieve the kind of results you desire. It’s not a difficult concept to get but you may be resistant to it.
Do you remember what we just discussed emotional resistance?
You might want to head back up and read that section a couple more times.
In my pursuit of becoming a coach, I understand that the job requires me to equip people with essential information for them to effect change. It’s not my job to force you into action.
My job is to show you exactly how YOU can help yourself by implementing the information at your disposal from me and a ton of other influential and successful mentors.
But you have to be willing to put in the work.
Nobody can help you unless you are prepared to help yourself.
It’s as simple as that.
The wonderful thing about it is that once you decide to help yourself, all these self-help articles and books become insanely valuable.
Wrapping It Up
I hope you enjoyed this article and I strongly urge you to read it a couple of times until you’ve understood how emotional resistance affects your life, how to absorb as much information as you possibly can from self-help content and why you have to translate that information into action.
When you can piece this puzzle together, the results are nothing less than phenomenal!
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