Life is like a rollercoaster ride.
The highs feel wonderful but the lows feel horrible. We try to escape the lows but it’s impossible.
We need those bad moments in life. They build character, strengthen resolve and make the wonderful moments feel truly spectacular.
How you deal with emotional pain and suffering is important because it can shape and mold your personality in a number of ways.
It can make you or break you. I’d prefer if it made you into a stronger, smarter and happier person which is why I decided to write about this topic.
I want to explore a few ways you can deal with pain and channel it into a positive change within yourself. I know it’s tough and you’re going through a hard time right now. You’re not alone and things will get better.
“Strength will find you sooner than you ever thought it would.” – The Maine
1. Surround Yourself With People Who Care About You
In your weakest moments, it’s tempting to fall into a pit of misery and self-loathing but what I find to be the best thing ever is turning to family and friends who genuinely care about your well being.
These are the individuals who are going to listen and support you through times of hardship.
There is an unspoken rule that what goes in must come out. When you’ve been dealt a bad hand and there’s a ton of negative emotions that has entered your heart, don’t let it fester inside you!
Release those emotions in a safe and positive way by talking about it without someone who is genuinely interested in your well being.
If you’ve been through a breakup, I’m certain you’ve found yourself overwhelmed by emotions and the illusion of action might tempt you to lash out or make a rash decision.
Those decisions you make in that state often turn out to be a mistake, especially in a state of desperation and rejection. When you have people to discuss your feelings with, they’ll pull you out of bad decisions and go so far as to prevent you from making huge mistakes.
Get those feelings out of your system and accept the support of those who love you.
2. Accept The Situation For What It Is
It’s easy to get wrapped up in something that impacts us on an emotional level. That situation probably plays on a loop in your mind and you question yourself, what could I have done differently? Maybe this? Maybe that?
All you’re doing is feeding the chaos.
To deal with a storm, you remove yourself from dangerous places and relocate yourself somewhere safe until the storm subsides.
That’s survival 101.
Despite the urge to rehash events play for play, it’s healthier and smarter to just accept the situation for what it is.
If you made mistakes, learn from them. If you missed warning signs, be more alert going forward. If you didn’t stand up for yourself, start right now.
Do as much as you can to improve yourself for the future but don’t sit back and obsess over the past. It’s over and done with.
You can’t undo what’s been done but you can sure as hell make sure it doesn’t happen again.
I know it sucks but you will get through this because the lows cannot exist without the highs in life.
What this means is that good times will find you again but you have to free up some space in your heart and mind to be ready to accept the happy times knocking on your door.
3. Start Moving On
It hurt, you paid your dues and you let go of all the ‘what-if’ scenarios bouncing around your head. The only thing you can do at this point is get up and move on.
There’s nothing you can do about the past and to stay still, in the same space, will only aggravate the situation.
At a certain point, all you can do is pick yourself up and do things that will improve your life and make you feel better.
Whether it be working on your side business, focusing more on your career, spending time with loved ones, going out to have some fun, exercising or some kind of craft.
When you’ve felt sad and hurt for a significant amount of time, you’ve got to love and respect yourself to say, “enough is enough” and do things that will eventually make you happy again.
Once you get started, momentum will carry you all the way to happiness and contentment.
Just start, it’s all you need to do right now. Leave the rest to time, momentum and destiny.